Adaptable | Behavior Explained

Criticism: When Needs Turn Into Attacks

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores Criticism: When Needs Turn Into Attacks, one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and how it can quietly erode connection in relationships. We break down how criticism often masks deeper unmet needs, why it shows up as blame instead of vulnerability, and how shifting from attack to honest expression can completely change the way we’re heard, understood, and connected.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Stonewalling: When Silence Becomes The Wall

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Stonewalling: When Silence Becomes the Wall”, unpacking how what looks like withdrawal or avoidance is often a nervous system response to overwhelm. We break down the core causes of stonewalling, including emotional flooding and fear of conflict, along with the real costs it can have on connection, trust, and relationship health, while offering a compassionate lens to better understand the pattern and begin moving toward safer, more connected communication.
 
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
 
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
 
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

100K Milestone: Inside the Journey with Taylor O’Horo

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over celebrating our 100K milestone and taking you inside the journey with Taylor O’Horo — what it took, what we’ve learned, and what’s next.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

How to Cope When Parents Cut Off Adult Children

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores how to cope when parents cut off adult children. We unpack the complexity behind parental estrangement, why it happens, the emotional impact it leaves behind, and how adult children can begin to process, heal, and move forward. This conversation explores boundaries, grief, identity, and the reality of learning to hold love and distance at the same time.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

The First 100K: A Peek Into the Journey

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained Season 3! In this episode, we explore The First 100K: A Peek Into the Journey. Kelly and Patrick reflect on what it felt like reaching 100,000 subscribers, sharing the lessons, challenges, and unexpected moments that came with building the channel from the early days of social media to where it is now. They also talk about past experiences, the excitement of creating in a new studio, and the persistence it takes to keep showing up and growing an audience. This conversation offers a behind-the-scenes look at the journey, the learning process, and what the first 100K really represents.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Podcast Highlights: Perimenopause, Sexless Marriage & Rebuilding Closeness

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore the connection between perimenopause, sexless marriage, and rebuilding emotional and physical closeness.
Podcast Highlights:• How perimenopause can affect libido, mood, and relationship dynamics• Why many couples experience a shift in intimacy during midlife• The psychological and physiological factors behind “sexless” periods in relationships• How couples can rebuild connection, communication, and closeness• Practical insights for partners navigating these changes together
This conversation sheds light on a topic many couples experience but rarely talk about offering understanding, validation, and pathways toward reconnection.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Understanding Fear — When Protection Becomes a Prison

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into Understanding Fear — When Protection Becomes a Prison, exploring how fear begins as a powerful form of protection but can quietly take over when it never powers down shaping our thoughts, relationships, and nervous system in ways that once kept us safe, but now keep us stuck.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Healing Your Inner Child

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Healing Your Inner Child, unpacking how early attachment experiences shape our adult relationships, emotional triggers, and sense of self. We’ll gently examine the parts of us that still carry old wounds, explore why those younger parts show up the way they do, and share compassionate, practical steps for building safety, resilience, and deeper self-understanding.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/