Adaptable | Behavior Explained
I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we’re all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the ”life stuff” and ”emotional vocabulary” that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I’ve learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There’s a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we’re all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the ”life stuff” and ”emotional vocabulary” that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I’ve learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There’s a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
Episodes

4 days ago
The First 100K: A Peek Into the Journey
4 days ago
4 days ago
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained Season 3! In this episode, we explore The First 100K: A Peek Into the Journey. Kelly and Patrick reflect on what it felt like reaching 100,000 subscribers, sharing the lessons, challenges, and unexpected moments that came with building the channel from the early days of social media to where it is now. They also talk about past experiences, the excitement of creating in a new studio, and the persistence it takes to keep showing up and growing an audience. This conversation offers a behind-the-scenes look at the journey, the learning process, and what the first 100K really represents.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Friday Mar 06, 2026
Podcast Highlights: Perimenopause, Sexless Marriage & Rebuilding Closeness
Friday Mar 06, 2026
Friday Mar 06, 2026
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore the connection between perimenopause, sexless marriage, and rebuilding emotional and physical closeness.
Podcast Highlights:• How perimenopause can affect libido, mood, and relationship dynamics• Why many couples experience a shift in intimacy during midlife• The psychological and physiological factors behind “sexless” periods in relationships• How couples can rebuild connection, communication, and closeness• Practical insights for partners navigating these changes together
This conversation sheds light on a topic many couples experience but rarely talk about offering understanding, validation, and pathways toward reconnection.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Friday Feb 27, 2026
Understanding Fear — When Protection Becomes a Prison
Friday Feb 27, 2026
Friday Feb 27, 2026
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into Understanding Fear — When Protection Becomes a Prison, exploring how fear begins as a powerful form of protection but can quietly take over when it never powers down shaping our thoughts, relationships, and nervous system in ways that once kept us safe, but now keep us stuck.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Friday Feb 20, 2026
Healing Your Inner Child
Friday Feb 20, 2026
Friday Feb 20, 2026
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Healing Your Inner Child, unpacking how early attachment experiences shape our adult relationships, emotional triggers, and sense of self. We’ll gently examine the parts of us that still carry old wounds, explore why those younger parts show up the way they do, and share compassionate, practical steps for building safety, resilience, and deeper self-understanding.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Friday Feb 13, 2026
Rebuilding Closeness in a Disconnected Marriage
Friday Feb 13, 2026
Friday Feb 13, 2026
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore why emotional distance happens, how resentment and unmet needs quietly build over time, and what it truly takes to reconnect in a meaningful way, breaking down the patterns that create disconnection and sharing practical, research-informed steps couples can use to restore emotional safety, intimacy, and partnership especially if you’ve started to feel more like roommates than partners.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Friday Feb 06, 2026
Sexless Marriage: Understanding, Unlearning, and Reconnection
Friday Feb 06, 2026
Friday Feb 06, 2026
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained. In this episode, we explore why intimacy fades due to stress, trauma, hormonal changes, and pressure, not a lack of love and how compassion and nervous system awareness can create space for reconnection without shame or force.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Friday Jan 30, 2026
Perimenopause: When Your Body Changes Before Anyone Warns You
Friday Jan 30, 2026
Friday Jan 30, 2026
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores perimenopause, a neurological and emotional transition that affects the brain, nervous system, and relationships long before most people are warned. Often showing up as anxiety, brain fog, emotional reactivity, sleep disruption, or feeling “not like yourself,” these changes are frequently misunderstood or dismissed as stress. We unpack why they happen, how hormones affect the brain, and how understanding your body can replace fear and shame with clarity and compassion.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Friday Jan 23, 2026
Resentment and How to Let It Go
Friday Jan 23, 2026
Friday Jan 23, 2026
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores resentment and how to let it go. Resentment often builds quietly when needs go unspoken or boundaries aren’t honored, slowly draining emotional energy and impacting relationships. We’ll explore where resentment comes from, how it shows up, and compassionate, practical ways to begin releasing it without ignoring your own needs.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
-- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Additional Advanced Trainings
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Feeling State Addiction Protocol-Robert Miller
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Recent Traumatic Episode Protocol-Maria Masciandaro
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Mindful Resonance with EMDR Therapy-Irene Siegel
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Treating First Responders and Betrayal Trauma with EMDR-Robbie Tapia
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Treating Complex Trauma with EMDR Therapy: Working with the Body and Attachment -Deany Laliotis
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Treating Early Attachment Wounds with Sensorimotor and EMDR Therapy-Lana Epstein
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EGO State Therapy, Healing the Heart of Trauma and Dissociation-Carol Forgash
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Emotion Focused Couples Therapy Externship-Susan Johnson
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The Art and Science of Love Gottman 2 Day Workshop
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Implicit Trauma Protocol Training-Katie O’Shea
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Healing the Wounds of Attachment and Rebuilding Self-Deany Laliotis
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Structural Dissociation Training-Sara Jenkins
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Dance of Attachment: An EMDR Relational Approach - Deany Laliotis
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Relational EMDR Therapy: Taking the Journey to the Next Level - Deany Laliotis
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Simplifying Complex PTSD: New Treatment Approaches and EMDR 2.0 - Ad de Johngh, Ph.D and Suzy Matthijssen, Ph.D
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Treating First Responders and Military with EMDR Therapy: Foundations for Effective EMDR Treatment - Dr E.C. Hurley
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US Journal International Conference and Trauma and Addiction 2019 - Bessel Van der Kolk, Janina Fisher Ph.D, Alan Downs Ph.D.
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EMDRIA ANNUAL CONFERENCES 2019, 2017, 2015, 2013









